In the modern era of technological development and information explosion, the distance between people is getting farther and farther away, especially in the past two years of the COVID-19 pandemic, the location has become a compulsory course for everyone.
"Who will be the person who has been with you for the longest in this life?" A colleague at work? A companion in marriage? Family who have lived together for decades? It’s actually ourselves. We have a lot of time to stay with ourselves, but many people don’t know how to stay with ourselves.
{9Many people think that being alone means staying at home and still sliding their phone on their hands, so they realize that they have learned the "individual" method, but this is just a waste of time. Think back to see if you are alone, will you pay attention to your mood, or feel lonely, and don’t know how to spend this period of time?
"What is considered a separate thing?" Many people cannot understand what "talking to yourself" is because it is too abstract.
In fact, whether it is "to be with yourself" or "to talk to yourself" does not describe the situation where you are the only one. It is a state of the situation and a process. It is in this process that we learn to understand ourselves better.
You can often see articles about "Find yourself in life" online, teaching you to find interest and preferences, but the concept of "Find yourself" is not just that, but to see and discover yourself from previous experiences, or through people, things, and things in life.
"Why do I say something about hurting people?" answered by thinking about my situation at that time.
"Why did I think so at that time?" I asked myself from the sidelines.
In such concurrent conversations, explanations, feelings, judgments, or directions for the next action may appear.
Every relationship with friends has a story.There are some friends in life who can be talked about. We are already very accustomed to these people and things, and we also have many interactions or connection modes with them. However, on weekdays, we don't particularly notice these details.
We have never really thought about how we met and established our circle of friends around us? Or how does the relationship between work partners be formed? Why do some people silently fade out of our lives? Can some people accompany us through every stage of our lives?
We may treasure certain items in the room or bags, if one day we are asked, "Why do you cherish these little things?", or maybe it is very meaningful to you, or maybe it is because these items have a special connection and recollection with some people.
The same is true for the relationship between people. When you have a "knowledge" to "familiarity" and then to "knowing each other and cherishing each other", there is a "knowing" process, and at the beginning of each relationship, there will be a story.
For example, some people who leave their hometowns are particularly fond of the food. As long as they taste a bite, the memories of the family will surge up, extending to the depths of their hearts with their taste buds, becoming endless longings: the scene of their mother being a meal, the joy of their playmates, etc.
Use reminiscing about opening the "talking to myself" mechanism: "What happened to me in that time, in that situation? What did you experience with those people?"
By recalling and sorting out every past relationship, we can help us understand ourselves better.
The present self vs. The past selfUse dialogue to start to change yourself
We like something, and this feeling of "like" may be just a mood at the beginning, but it becomes a habit after a few times. Over time, we will find that this thing actually affects our emotions. This "death" is the so-called "observation" of life.
For example, the amulet brought with you, it is a gift my grandmother gave during the exam, hoping to bring you good luck, and she has been wearing it on her body since then. At first, it might be just because it was my grandmother who wanted to treasure it. Later, the small amulet was always with me, bringing peace and strength in my mood. At this time, the amulet has become a part of my perception. At this time, the meaning of the amulet to me was different from when my grandmother gave it to me, because I gave the amulet to me with a deeper meaning. The meaning behind the object is actually what we add to it ourselves. When someone gives us something, or when we get it, we will start to slowly add experience and experience to it, and after one, two or three companions, we will eventually produce something that belongs to us.
So treasured items become a story to accompany yourself at some point. Just like when the singer Amei went on stage to perform, she would definitely bring a special white microphone style. This white microphone style became a well-known special symbol or symbol. When this microphone was lost, it would not only affect Amei's mood, but also the performance effect would have some impact.
Regarding knowing yourself or talking to yourself, in addition to being a dialogue process between "the present self" and "the past self", and also having different understandings and self-understandings about yourself as you grow, this will be a change rather than a fixed process.
Through past experiences, current life situations, and future expectations, we shape the current self-talk. We are all constantly changing during this process, and "self" is a process of continuous transformation.
